Code

My friend and colleague Richard is an internationally sought after semiotician. He studies cultural signs and codes, language and other forms of communication and representation, verbal and non-verbal. One of my favourite sayings of his is : Once I know your code, I no longer have to listen to your message.
This is not to suggest that messages are not important.... messages can contain hints of code, misdirection of code, can even be presented or believed as code by the sender..... but they are not code.
I thought I'd provide a few examples of code/message relation from a few insiders who were nice enough to share them with me....
... and we're off...
This is one from a gal who works at my bank : Let me see if I can find someone here who would like to help you with that
This is one from my sister who is a teacher at a " high risk demographic " elementary school in response to a colleague's query, "so, how did it go ?" regarding an interaction with a parent : about how you'd expect
This is one from me when I have to inquire after why something was done the way it was: I'd like you to walk me through your decision making process on this one

now, see if you can match the code below to the messages above

what the hell were you thinking
you're an asshole and no one here wants to deal with you
I figured it would go badly and I was not surprised ( you eedjit)

These are somewhat mundane and humourous examples; code can also be quite serious, deadly serious in some contexts. Not to be taken lightly, and not to be dismissed. Teaching me about code and ways to read it have been some of the best gifts Richard has given me, in addition to his wonderful friendship and mentorship.

of course, I welcome message/code examples others would like to share....